Rejection
So, I am making some changes to my site and the decision was not easy. I was not sure what reaction to expect from people. Would I get ugly e-mails just because I decided not to give away my templates and new videos for free any more?
I announced the day before that I was making changes, but I do not believe people really read. I know I am guilty of that.
So, I put out my first e-mail that the newest template is available in the Subscriber area and watched. I immediately saw people trying to access the page to download the freebie. It takes no time when I send out an e-mail for me to see the traffic.
It wasn't very long after that I observed someone unable to access the freebie unsubbed from the Yahoo notifications group.
I'm not sure what to think about that.
At first, I sort of want to run after the person saying, "Wait! If you really cannot afford the Subscriber area, just ask and I'll give you the freebie. Don't leave me. You've been with me so long. I'm so sorry to make you so mad, but my decision wasn't easy. Am I that horrible that you should leave me?"
I feel a sting of rejection. So, I'm not worthy to this person any longer?
Then on the other hand I want to say "Good ridence! If the only thing you are interested in is getting my template for free and you are not interested in anything else I am doing, then I don't need you around!"
And then I feel guilty for even allowing myself to think that. It seems so wrong and so cruel.
At least I have assurance that God never rejects me. Even when I do not please Him, He does not reject me.
Matthew 15:24 He answered, "I was sent only to the lost sheep of Israel."
For it is when I am doing things that do not please Him that He is there for me, a lost sheep, wandering about where I should not be. He is ready to forgive me and bring me back into His loving arms.
Isn't that an awesome feeling!
I can only pray that I can go and do likewise to others; to reach out to those who feel rejected and let them know that they are accepted. I know I fail at this too, although it is in my heart to be this kind of person.
Everyone only wants to feel accepted. So many people do not feel accepted. Why is it so hard for us to feel good about a person and yet not express it to them so that they feel accepted?
Who is it out there that feels I do not accept them when in my heart I really do? They just do not know I do because I have not said what I need to say.
If you are reading this, please know you are not alone and that people do accept you. Life just stinks sometimes.
10 WARM FUZZIES--comments SO appreciated!:
I totally understand why you are putting some things only into the subscriber section, don't let it get you down, if people leave, or complain.
You are right, about people not reading, I've seen that several times, when they ask me a question, and the answer is right in the post on my blog, that they had to have seen, cause the thing they are asking about, was in that SAME post. It IS amazing. *giggle* Not that I may not do the same thing at times. :)
You have the right to put things into your subscriber section. They are your things!!
Now you are able to see who only wanted you for the freebies.
Maybe I don't comment often (or not LOL), but I do read your blog through my Google Reader. I won't leave cause you're changing things. As long as I'm being entertained, which I am, love your house rules!, and can learn from your tips and links, I would say keep on going.
hugs sweetie! You are doing the right thing for you and your subscribers. Hang tight, stay the course, let the wheat separate form the chaff and it will all turn out OK!
This blog is the best I have ever come across because of the versatility and the friendliness. I really never took the time to go further than the forum the challenges and the blog, but there is so much more. I will get at it all someday.
Keep on Keepin on. We can't please everyone. :)
Keep On! Love the friendliness.
((huggers))
I love your site, Hummie. I don't always read the blog, but I recently subscribed to your yahoo group, and you know I'm in the forum a lot. I really just enjoy your friendliness and the fun group that you have attracted to your site. I have recently enjoyed the color challenge freebies, but that's not why I joined. I just feel "at home" on your site more than at others. Do what you need to do for YOU and what you feel is right and fair. Those of us that love you will still love you!
I think you are doing the right thing. In all honesty I am surprised you gave away so much already. Most wouldn't have been so generous with their knowledge. I have heard so much about your site and have hardly skimmed the surface but I can tell it is a wonderful tool and community just from what I hear in the cyber world. :) Hang in there...change is never easy but you know in your heart you are doing the right thing.
It really isn't personal, I don't think a lot of people that "mine" freebies online even think about the people that create them, they just think about their own collection and what they can use, how it affects them, etc. There's no denying warm fuzzies when you get comments, but no reason to get cold fuzzies, LOL, when you don't!
Hi Dear Hummie! I subscribe via feeds so I get to read your postings from my Outlook. I understand completely why you have made the changes and I'm not going anywhere either! You are very oftan an inpsiration to me! Keep it up!
Hi there, just had to had my hug and let you know I always pop in to see what you are up to :)
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