If I invited you to my house, would you.....
If I invited you to my house, would you sit here? Hubby promises it supports his weight just fine.
Ugggggggggggggggggggggggg!
Sigh.
We cannot have cushions because the stupid squirrels de-stuff them for nesting material. So this year I decided I was going to cut wood slats and put them on our swing frames.
Hubby wanted to take the easy way out and use straps. He looks at me really badly when I profess this is totally wrong, that I cannot believe he thinks this is acceptable, and try to explain how it is supposed to be installed. He, of course, has his manhood totally insulted.
I try so hard to be a good wife and not knock him down (because we are supposed to build up our hubbies), but it is SO hard for me when I am always confronted with stuff like this! I want to be a good wife.
He won't do it my way because he wants to do it how he thinks is an easy way, but yet when I come along after him and fix it right, even if I say nothing, his manhood is totally deflated because a woman did better than him and...and....and.....we argue! Okay. This has been a repetitive pattern for the past 21 years. The boys even know to try to help mom and/or dad to avoid a situation like this. We can never work together because I want to do it one way and he wants to do it the other (wrong) way, so we tend to do our projects separately with one of the boys.
Poor son of mine who helped his father do this. Sigh. Now that's another problem of mine. How can I just let it go and let him think he's been taught right? I don't need him learning wrong. I need to say something, right? However, to say something is to put down his father, which is wrong. It's a catch 22. So I pulled up some photos and left them on the computer screen for him to see the right way.
I cannot win. Nope.
I think I'm going shopping for some wood tomorrow. Sigh.
On a good note, I have three rose bushes blooming so beautiful and both the front and back yards smell so good that I just want to linger and deep breath!
Most of them are not very photogenic though. I am wondering if it is due to the ice storm. This one was about the best to photograph.
Now, this one looks like I ever so painstakingly pruned it so it would bloom in a circle. Nope. It wasn't me that did it. It has a mind of its own.
Have a happy weekend, everyone! --and breath deep for me.
6 WARM FUZZIES--comments SO appreciated!:
Kids are pretty smart. I'm guessing your son knows exactly how both of you feel, and his feelings about the situation will have more to do with how much personality he inherited from either one of you ;)
It occurs to me that we aren't supposed to put our husbands down, but that doesn't mean we have to be dishonest.
Wow, that really takes the cake that he thinks that that is OK. I totally sympathize with the conflicts with your husband. My DH and I are the same way. I think that there is nothing wrong with your quietly fixing it the way it should be fixed. seriously, his way is just dangerous.
Oh Hummie, I feel your pain. Mine isn't the fixing poorly but the getting it fixed in a timely manner. For instance, my shower head fell on my head for over a month almost every morning (who remembers to duck that early???) before it got fixed.
Did you find the poll? It should be the first thing at the top on the right.
Hmmm . . .I thought I added you to my favorites already. Although I can't remember the last time I updated that section so maybe I dreamed it. To make it up to you, I added a section just for you. :D
Here's to hoping you get that wood!!
i am going to have to agree with you about the swing but at least your flowers are looking beautiful
Your sons know by now that this is just mom and dad, at it again. They also know that you love each other and that this is part of your life. We are suppose to support our husbands in their endeavors, but who ever put this in that category. I am still laughing. I think it is time that I got off my computer because you have caused tears to come into my eyes and joy into my heart. HUGS!!
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